Keep Cool (Vented Anger)

Anger is a natural emotional response to something that threatens our safety and well-being. For many people anger becomes a weapon they use to try to control other people through threats and intimidation. Many feel that if others don’t conform to their wishes, they have a right to be angry and irritated.  Using anger as a weapon is always a sign of a lack of love and respect for the rights of others. Used in this way anger destroys relationships, drives people away and ultimately becomes a self-destructive force in a person’s life.

The Keep Cool remedy is a blend of seven flower essences that are helpful for people who are easily irritated, impatient with others and tend to lose their temper.  It promotes forgiveness of past hurts, tolerance for differences, acceptance of others, and facilitates more open and loving communication. It helps a person be more receptive to other people’s points of view and work for cooperation, rather than competition, in relationships.

Here are the seven flower essences in this blend and what they do to help a person not to “lose their cool.”

Calendula

Calendula is used herbally and homeopathically to heal cuts, but as a flower essence, calendula helps people who “cut” others with their words to recognize the pain they are inflicting. It  helps them recognize when their language is inflicting hurt and pain and makes them less argumentative. Calendula flower essence is a great remedy for promoting open and receptive communication instead of argument and conflict.

Snapdragon

As the name of this remedy implies, snapdragon is helpful for people who “snap” at others with a “dragon-like” temper. Snapdragon is an useful remedy for people who are verbally aggressive, abusive and hostile. It enhances emotional balance in communication, helping a person create a more lively dynamic exchange. It is also useful for a repressed or misdirected libido, where sexual energy is turned into aggression. Snapdragon can also ease tension in the jaw and be helpful for grinding of the teeth.     

Vine

Vines grow over the top of other plants, smothering them. Vine flower essence is a remedy for people who tend to smother others, using their force of will to dominate others and control them. Vine helps the tyrannical person to find greater tolerance for others and helps them learn to exercise leadership that provides service to, rather than control of, others.

Impatiens

Impatiens is a basic remedy for anger. It is helpful for people who feel impatient, angry, irritated and intolerant. It is a good remedy for overly busy people, who don’t fully engage with others and the world around them. Impatiens also helps a person move more with the flow of life, instead of fighting or resisting what is happening. It can increase a person’s ability to be patient with others and accepting of people’s differences. 

Willow

Willows have the ability to be flexible. When a person is filled with resentment and bitterness they often decide that life is unfair and that they are the helpless victims of others.  This causes them to become inflexible and unable to take responsibility for their own life. Willow promotes flexibility and acceptance of life, as well as the ability to take responsibility for one’s own life while helping people to forgive. 

Holly

When people feel “cut off” from the love they want, they can become jealous, suspicious, envious and angry. These feelings actually block a person from receiving the love they seek. Holly is a remedy that opens the heart to increase feelings of love and compassion for others. By helping a person feel and extend love to others, instead of withholding love, holly can help people discover that they receive love when they give it away.

Tiger Lily

Tigers are strong and powerful, Lilies are soft and sweet. The Tiger Lily plant combines both of these energies. It helps people who are overly competitive, aggressive and hostile to soften and realize that they don’t have to overpower others with their strength. It softens excessive “tiger” energy and helps a person work towards cooperation. It helps build relationships based on inner peace and harmony, rather than the struggle for power.

Selected References 

Flower Essence Repertory by Patricia Kaminski
Flower Power  by Anne McIntyre
Bach Flower Remedies Form and Functionby Julian Bernard

Ingredients:

 Holly (Ilex aquifolium), Tiger Lily (Triteleia ixiodides), Calendula (Calendula officinalis), Snapdragon (Antirrhinum majus), Impatiens (Impatiens glandulifera), Grape Vine (Vitis vinifera), Willow (Salix vitellina), vegetable glycerin and purified water.